Dreaming of empty chair (updated)

Dreaming of chairs & Gestalt Empty Chair therapy.

The empty chair is a reminder of Gestalt Empty Chair Therapy. If you are a psychologist or client who has knowledge of this technique, you will be reminded of the implication of this dream analysis. The empty chair is present for you to imagine that the person who you need to talk to, is sitting on that chair. So when the chair is turned towards you, the associated meaning is that something good happens, like the person has mended  with you. If, in the dream, you have turned the chair to face away from you, then the implication is that you are rejected. If you were doing reasonably well before this dream, then it portends your impending change of luck. You may be getting bad luck.

Dream interpretation of chair not facing you.

The dream interpretation of seeing a chair whose back is turned towards you means bad luck maybe coming. Seeing the back of the chair is symbolic to seeing someone who has turned their back to you. The analysis of this image is that a person has become adverse to seeing you, or has become your enemy. You are expected to face some difficulty due to the lack of co-operation from this person.

Dream analysis depends on your present context in your life. If you have thought of  someone who you miss, then nostalgia for that person, coupled with memories, may have triggered a dream about an empty chair. The dream symbol of the empty chair can mean that person is another around to occupy that chair.

Have you ever dreamed of chairs before? Please share your dream.

Dreaming of an empty chair can mean the loss of a person. In some cultures, the family sets aside an empty chair, whenever they sit down for important celebrations, to signify they remember to honor the missing person.

Empty chair dream meaning

What can you do when you dream of loss?

You can acknowledge it. Reflect on your journey after your loss. You have survived a number of days since losing your friendship/ relationship/ beloved person/ loved pet etc. It is possible to carry on and continue your journey in life.

There are other dream interpretations for empty chair.

The simpler ones deal with the type of chair and the color of the furniture. The kind of chair you see in your dream, may hold significant meanings.

Dream imagery of a simple chair means it is without frills to serve its purpose of being functional. The context of this dream would be a message about something official and no nonsense.

In contrast, dream imagery of a chair of leisure, like a sofa, could mean the context is a relaxed environment, like a home.

Cheap looking chairs belie the economic standing of the environment. Expensive chairs provide a rich feel to the setting of the dream.

dream of empty chair
Possible dream images of empty chairs

If you’re anxious about a loved one, and you’re waiting to receive communication via a letter/ email/ text message, try The Love Letter Technique, created by John Gray. (Gray, p. 222).

The Love Letter Technique is a variation of Gestalt’s Empty Chair method. You write your letter (or monologue in Gestalt’s method) to talk to your intended party. Then you pretend you’re that person, and write a response of what you expect that person to reply to your Love Letter.

Self-help suggestions for lonely people:

Do you feel lonely?

If no, you don’t need to read further.

If yes, did you feel lonely for a long time? If no, you don’t need to read the rest of this chart.

If you have felt lonely for a long time, what’s missing in your life?

Are you trying to fill this gap?

If yes, are you going out to seek company?

If you’re not going out, invite friends to visit you.

Did your previous close friend break up with you? If yes, join a hobby to meet like-minded new friends.

If you can’t join a hobby club, find connection with new people.

Another activity you can try is to volunteer time doing philanthropy.

Do you have any problem at home?

If yes, reconcile and reunite.

If its not about a family problem, is it about a family member who left home or died? If yes, spend time with other people.

Do you think that a change in environment may be good for you?

If yes, think of the next issue, which is the possibility of facing adjustment blues. If this is a concern, try to be patient.

Are you a minority and different from the mainstream in your society? If yes, join people who accept diversity.

Did you drive off people by mistake? If yes, acknowledge your fault & ask for forgiveness.

Do you think you’re responsible for your loneliness?

Do you show compulsive behaviors when lonely? If yes, join a club, learn a new hobby or sport.

Are you lonely at home? If yes, move into a co-living space.

Do you think you’re lonely due to a lack of spirituality? If yes, connect with God by praying, meditation and finding inner peace.

Did this series of self-discovery steps help you? If yes, maintain your steps to fight loneliness. If no, start again from the top of this list of suggestions.

Dream imagery of the empty chair can mean loneliness.

You can feel lonely at work if you’re working remotely. If you work at your office, you can still feel lonely, if you lack interaction at work. Even if you work from home (WFH), you spend your available time saved from commuting, on your work, chores and desired activities.You usually don’t plough back saved time into talking or socialising with people outside your home.

Our secondary needs in life are self-esteem, which lead to relationships, platonic love, romantic love and maybe parental love.

The Covid-19 pandemic’s enforced isolation, remote work, or retirement all eliminated social interaction. Some people feel lonely. These folks embrace the occasional chat to chase away loneliness.

Other dream meanings of empty:

  1. There is a void now. Something is missing.
  2. We crave for something which is absent.
  3. We are disappointed as our expectations and anticipations are not filled.
  4. We are tired and exhausted.
Dreaming of empty chairs
“In the kitchen, a table and two sturdy chairs” (Cain, 2020, p. 10).

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