In my opinion, this is a piece of popular advice which I think is terrible –
“What doesn’t kill you actually makes you stronger”
Yes and no. My main complaint with this, is that before it makes you stronger, you’ll be suffering so much going through the physical hardship, mental trauma, emotional rollercoaster, and psychological wrecking. Before this wise adage makes you better, you would have become bitter.
We all know that victims of bullying display the trend of becoming bullies themselves. Did their past experience make them stronger? Do they think they’re so strong that they can be bullies? Do they think that since they’ve gone through bullying, and didn’t die, it is okay to bully other people, because others will also not die?
I’ve read that sentence, ages ago, in one subscription based blog platform. Whenever one blogger posted on negative news, another blogger would resort to saying that silly phrase to console them. Enough already.
Related:
The blog prompt, “What’s a popular advice you think is actually terrible?” is from Rojie here. It is a prompt meant for June 13.
i also question if it’ll make me stronger or more damaged… le sigh
I think that quote is dumb…i perhaps a bit so-so but mostly untrue.
Trauma takes years of therapy and work on oneself and even then there will be struggles. It can be 30 years passed and you can still have a nightmare or a trigger.
I think those who do into others what has been done to them are also suffering and have not gotten through what happened to them.
The so-so part of it is probably that I can go through a lot of poop now without breaking, in that sense am strong.