I’m answering the question, “What is a common friendship activity that does not appeal to you at all?” This is a prompt for April 2 2025.
My answer is drinking alcohol in a watering hole; it does not appeal to me at all. I have only been to a club once. My friend invited me to join his group of friends who had planned to meet up in a club for drinks. I trusted my friend so I agreed to appear.
It was a group of women and men who had met through a community hall’s social activity and they continued to organize their own gatherings after the initial meet.
When I sat down at the table, I was met with indifference. The women were not unfriendly, but they weren’t friendly towards me either. I realized it was because they viewed me as a competitor for the men’s attention.
Besides my male friend, there were two other men at the table, being part of the older, original group. The women chatted amicably about themselves. One woman hinted that she would like something to eat. None of the men offered to buy any food for her. Man or woman had to order and be responsible for their consumption. My male friend offered to get me something to eat but I declined because I didn’t want the other women to feel bad. They could afford to pay for their drinks and food but were trying to sponge off the generosity of others present at the table.
The women were guarded as they didn’t want to make mistakes and ruin their chances of a man selecting her for solo dating. One woman repeated her conversation topics as she had run out of general, generic topics of conversation. I was bored stiff sitting there listening to the same run of her recorder over and over.
This is why I seldom join acquaintances on outings to costly venues like watering holes. A bottle of hard liquor could cost a setback of quite a sum of money.
When I sit with my church friends, it is usually at a simple cafe where we each have a beverage and a slice of cake; maybe chocolate cake. When it is time to split up, we don’t even split the bill. All of us would rush to snatch the bill.
Drinking, the common friendship activity, doesn’t appeal to me at all.
