If you dream you were sitting beside someone, what does this dream mean?
There are many interpretations of dreaming of sitting beside someone. Even in waking life, you may see or feel that you are being watched, or tailed by someone following you.
If you see or know that you’re sitting beside someone, its dream interpretation is that you have company. In your waking life, you might be going through a crisis and your inner conscious sent you this dream, to tell you that you’re sitting beside someone and not alone. This is your personal feeling of security, comfort and confidence.
If you are a female, you may think that someone next to you is a male. This is because you desire protection, security and comfort that the traditional male could offer
If you’re a female and prefer the company of your same gender, then in times of challenges, you would seek out another female for assistance.
Similar types of arguments would apply for males who prefer the company of other males.
Your dreams reflect your desires, habits, present situation in life, and memories. Whatever you dream about can be a mix of all these factors.
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Besides in the dreamworld, the waking world also has manifestations of someone around you. Sometimes, the someone sitting beside you, or standing next to you, is your guardian angel.
Some religions teach that every human who prays, has a guardian angel who is ever present with them. This angel accompanies them everywhere they go; even in the bathroom. The angel assists their charge. The extent to which they can help depends on the status of the human being. If this person is very pious to God, their angel’s power is also improved. This means the angel is empowered to perform better levels of help. For instance, a pious person has a more powerful angel than another type of person who is lax in prayers.
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One of the earliest psychologists, Carl Jung, wrote about his theories of human beings having a Shadow. This aspect is the worst case composite of the self. Every person has their worst traits which they are unaware of. But other people familiar with them see the Mr. Hyde side of their personality. We usually want to hide our ugly self, but this masking is harmful as it will consume us eventually one day. We can instead harness our good self to confront our bad self.
Every personality has two sides. One side is the face we project to the world. The other side is the face we hide from the world. We need to learn to show the ugly side, by using our good side.
The side we show to society is our dominant side. We may feel our other side waiting in the wings, for the chance to get some attention. Our other side is the side we feel sitting beside us.
Pie chart of meanings of dreaming of sitting beside someone:
Are you aware of your different perspectives which you normally don’t allow to come to the forefront? You show only your politically correct opinions, morally upright virtues, and socially acceptable self. You hide your divergent views for fear of reprisals. Your different opinions are simmering in the back burner. Your alternate self is itching to get out. It is your shadow, lying in wait for its opportunity to step out of the shadow. It has been accompanying you. It has its own resources, which you need to use to integrate into your pool of resources. You can’t suppress it forever. It is psychologically damaging, as well as detrimental for other aspects of your personality.
Updated May 2024
Kristi Noem, the current incumbent Governor of South Dakota, disclosed in her autobiography that she decided to kill her puppy because it didn’t respond to training and had bitten people. She titled her book “No Going Back” and highlighted anecdotes where she killed her domestic animals. Her confessions may have been powered by her beliefs in owning up to incorrect deeds to present her human self. Is her Shadow to blame for less than perfect acts? We all have our own Shadows. Before we point to the speck in our neighbor’s eye, we should first remove the log in our own eye.
What could she have tried in lieu of eliminating the animals? Could she have tried sending her puppy to one or two Obedience Schools? Should she have tried to re-home puppy Cricket? Would it have mattered somewhat to get a vet to euthanize the pup instead of shooting it?
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Its nice to sit beside someone. Pooh is too short so he sits on a tree branch to be on eye level with Christopher Robin.
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Freud recorded a psychological analysis case study on a German boy nick-named Hans. He was 3 1/2 years old when his dad contacted Freud to help him with anxieties and fears. Hans sometimes had bad dreams and he woke up to ask his parents permission to sleep on their bed. Hans’ mother had no objections but his dad had reservations.
It didn’t end well with Hans’ parents. They divorced and remarried new spouses. Freud met Hans when he was a young adult. Hans said he didn’t think he suffered any harm.
For married couples, when that someone who is beside you is a third leg, (even their own child) there could be complications.
This photo was snapped during our months long stay in a serviced apartment in H. from May to August 2024.
Sitting beside someone:
The Id, Ego and Super-ego:
Psychology says every human has these three components. The Id is the instinct and desires. The Super-ego is the moral compass or police. The Ego is the rational decision-maker who moderates the Id and placates the Superego.
The Id is like a shadow, who is selfish. Your Ego keeps your Id in the shadow because it is unsavoury to expose to the world. The Id can teach you a thing or two about yourself and other humans. Rather than banish it to the shadows, psychologists try to explain how you can benefit from your Id lurking beside you.
For example, addiction to substances is linked to the Id who has not recovered from its obsession with the substance. When the Id does recover, then the person benefits.
Do you recognise your shadow’s characteristics/ qualities/ traits? Do you acknowledge these traits in you? Or do you deny their existence? Do you feel so guilty that you tend to see these traits in other people? It could be because you’re running away so hard that your conscience makes you see those traits in others.
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Reference:
Monbourquette, J. How to befriend your shadow. Better Yourself Books: Mumbai, India.
