No, you should mind your own business and let others learn for themselves. The reason being you have to take care of yourself first, before you can care for others. You have limitations like your boundaries and its best to observe them and close an eye. If you had warned others about that abusive person, and they know you’re the culprit, you bet your bottom dollar that they will return the favor unequivocally. They may even kill you.
It is better to stay alive and watch from afar. You may have a chance to step in and save a life at the appropriate time.
An abusive person may also be a narcissist who thinks highly of themselves. They want to show off their best profile like Dr. Jekyll, and bury Mr. Hyde. They defend their stance vigorously. If you interfere by meddling with their relationships by warning others, then you are the person who has the problem.
If the abusive person’s friend comes complaining to you about injustice, you shouldn’t add hot water. There could be the day when those two bury the hatchet, mend fences and share notes about you. That abusive person will be looking for you.
Sometimes, any passing remark may even trigger sensitivity and misunderstanding. Colleagues who share and talk may find their intent quickly misunderstood as criticism or interference. We always hear of people accusing others of instigating to quarrel or sow discord.
One of my neighbors in a nearby house, is an abusive family. Even the domestic workers in the house are abusive. For example, a male worker talks loudly about shifting a target of abuse, who is their 2nd boss in command, onto the next door neighbor, who has nothing to do his household. This male worker said his 2nd boss has been the target for a long time, so the focus of attention should be shifted to someone else, to give relief to his 2nd boss.
To complicate matters, the next door neighbor is a woman with medical conditions. The abusive man chooses to ignore justice, medical complications, filing a police report with the police and not deferring abuse to any Jane Doe. What’s wrong with filing a police report to report a suspected offender? Its because the plaintiff and his household, are themselves suspect offenders and can not risk being identified as such.
Do you have evidence of the abuse? Do you think the evidence can hold up in court? If the answers to both questions are yes, then maybe you should weigh the pros and cons of filing a report. Even then, you are not protected against retaliation. It takes a lot more legal filing to petition a judge to grant you a restraining order/ protection order.
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