How does meditation promote positivity to help you? Why do we sometimes meditate on gratitude? Its necessary to remember the positive incidents gifted to us in life. It is human nature and psychology to recall the negative incidents, even as there are positive ones. How do we reverse this human inclination? By making the reflection and meditation of positive events a habit, we gradually lessen the sting of negative events.
“All these years later, Ba and Dadiji (Sonia’s paternal grandparents) could not remember a single sight, not a monument, not a museum, but they never forgot the green muffler lost on the way to Manchu Picchu or the machine that promised to deliver a recorded history of the Vatican through headphones, but when they put in the coins, it didn’t, and when they went to complain, the counter was closed for lunch.”
The above is a sentence in Kiran Desai’s novel, “The Loneliness of Sonia and Sunny”. It amplifies how characters remember negative incidents, over the good ones. Do you identify with Ba and Dadiji?
This is a psychological trait present in humans. The tendency to recall bad facts reigns over the tendency to remember good happenings. Also, every person has their own unique state of equilibrium; meaning their preferred state at rest, or undisturbed. Happy people are those with a happy state of equilibrium.
Sad people and negative people have their state of equilibrium at a negative/ sad level. When they experience a happy event, they feel happiness for a short while, then slowly, they return to feeling low, sad and negative.
Ms Desai writes with humor. In pointedly highlighting this aspect of her characters, she reminds us of the vulnerability of humans.
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