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If you’re a married woman and you dream of your husband having a mistress, it means you have a strained domestic relationship. If you’re a married husband and you dream of having a mistress, then you have to admit that your relationship with your wife is not stable.<\/p>\n
However, if you (either male or female) are already unfaithful before having this dream of the other sex partner, then this dream does not have much impact. It could be a dream of nostalgia for your other partner.<\/p>\n
You may dream of a woman and know instinctively she is your husband’s mistress. You might have picked up vibes that your spouse has someone who he treats as more important than you. For example, he might leave you alone in the dark, while he hails the first available cab, to send him to his girlfriend \/ mistress’ hotel room. If you felt hurt at this slight, it may trigger a dream about your husband’s mistress. If you ave observed your spouse’s behaviors and seen how your trust has been betrayed by acts of infidelity, then your knowledge may trigger dreams of your spouse cheating on you. <\/p>\n
Sometimes, there are other interpretations of this dream about your husband’s mistress. Your emotional insecurity could also be a factor in triggering this kind of dream. If you have observed your spouse, checked on his fidelity, and derived at the conclusion that he has not been keeping a mistress, then you need to work on your emotional security. Feeling suspicious and gut instinct are different i nature. You should have observations and empirical evidence to support your suspicions. <\/p>\n
Has there been cause for you to feel jealous? If there were no real evidence of unfaithful behaviors, you might wish to work on your trust issues.<\/p>\n
If the main theme is about you, like you are the one who is straying away from your marriage, then this may trigger a dream about your husband having a mistress. You may have thought of breaking away from your domestic relationship, leaving your position vacant for the next successor. You might wonder who would be your estranged husband’s girlfriend or mistress, or you wouldn’t care less. <\/p>\n
You may dream of your husband’s mistress but in reality, does he really have a mistress? Men spend a large proportion of time at work. In fact, a common saying goes, “A man is married to his work”. This is because he spends a lot of time on his work. His work can sometimes be mistaken as his mistress as he does not go home punctually, or he spends his weekends away from home because he clocks up hours at work.<\/p>\n
Some men have hobbies like fishing, playing pool, golf, or recreational activities. These events take up time. The wife or family who waits at home for his return, may wonder where he has went and may even think he spends time with a mistress. The husband who spends a lot of time on his hobby may be misunderstood as cheating on his wife. The husband who is away from his wife for long periods of time, may trigger dreams of cheating. The wife may suspect her spouse of cheating, because of her husband’s mistress or girlfriend. <\/p>\n
There are different cases, where the wife might not even suspect her husband for cheating. She did not dream in real life, nor in her night, that her husband would cheat on her. Then one day, she gets a stimulus that her husband has cheated. This is a devastating shock. The wife who was too busy attending to her sphere of responsibilities, may not have picked up signals that her husband was cheating.<\/p>\n
A wife’s pregnancy is commonly the time when her husband cheats on her. There have been countless stories of how the husband strayed away from his wife, at the time when she appeared less attractive with her ballooning abdomen.<\/p>\n
Dreams can be triggered by factors. The meaning of the dream depends on your personal knowledge of what the dream symbol means to you, your experiences with the dream icon, cultural meanings attached to the symbol, current themes and situation in your waking life, emotional feelings and a combination of these factors. <\/p>\n
The husband’s mistress holds different dynamics of power. She is not bound in a marriage and can negotiate to satisfy her demands. The meandering lover usually concedes to win acceptance and sexual favor. The wife, on the other hand, is trapped in marriage. She has almost no chips to bargain with and defiance wrecks her home and relationship with her husband.<\/div>\n
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Some men do admit to marital transgressions like infidelity. Their wives may also aspect or know about their extramarital affairs. However, these are condoned as long as the husband’s continue to play their roles in their marital home.<\/div>\n
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Women who are Wives may have been mistresses of one man, or several men, before they became married. They understand the differences between being a mistress and a wife. Women generally do not violate their boundaries and stay in their roles.<\/div>\n
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Society and culture of many geographies are willing to turn a blind eye to married men and bachelors who are promiscuous, but frown upon spinsters and married women who are promiscuous. There are double standards for men, but not women.<\/div>\n
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What can a wife do to address marital infidelity when her husband has a mistress?<\/strong><\/div>\n
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1. She should speak up to remind him of his commitment to their marriage.<\/div>\n
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2. The wife can remind her husband of his responsibility.<\/div>\n
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3. She can quote religion and ethics as a reference to incite moral behaviors.<\/div>\n
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4. She can hold him to ransom by with-holding emotional support and sexual intimacy.<\/div>\n
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5. The wife may stop doing domestic chores like cooking and cleaning.<\/div>\n
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6. The wife should talk to her spouse and determine what was it that his mistress sought from him, and he, from her. This establishes the dynamics of the extramarital affair and what she can do to try correcting the shortages in her marriage.<\/div>\n
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7. The husband’s mistress maintains her status because she desired a certain quality from that relationship. It could be financial gain, or emotional support. The cheated wife can terminate this extramarital relationship by severing the lifeline that bonded her husband’s mistress to him.<\/div>\n
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8. The wife can seek professional help from a counselor, therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist or social worker. These professionals usually contact the husband to arrange a common session, to discuss about the marriage.<\/div>\n
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9. The cheated wife may ask a third party like a trusted friend or relative, to speak to her husband, with the aim of persuading him to break away from his mistress.<\/div>\n
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10. In the event that she no longer wishes to stay in the marriage, she should speak to her lawyer and make plans to separate. The logistics of moving need to be arranged.<\/div>\n
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How the husband\u2019s mistress started<\/strong><\/p>\n
I read a research study published in 2005 on Taiwanese married men who had wives in Taiwan, worked in China and took China mistresses. These men entertained themselves and their business clients at recreational spots and got seduced by the very tools they used to trap their customers. Mind you, this scenario can happen with any nationality, race or religion. <\/p>\n
Why didn\u2019t married Taiwanese men travel with their wives and children in tow? Small business employers can\u2019t afford additional expenses to enable this. The man\u2019s salary is usually insufficient to support his family to live overseas with him. In the absence of the husband, the wife has to assume the role of caregiver and supporter to her husband\u2019s ageing parents. Her presence in the homeland is much required.<\/p>\n
Married Taiwanese men with wives back in the homeland, see them when they visit periodically. Technology has helped with realtime video calls, but this is insufficient to substitute for physical contact.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n
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One day, I met a man who is not married to the woman he was accompanying. That man was a stranger. He probably was a bachelor, or a husband of a woman who was not standing beside him at the taxi stand. You may ask, how did I know he was not married to that woman? He acted as though he was not accompanying the woman. He stood there behaving detached and isolated. He pretended to be busy with his smartphone by scrolling down the screen, or texting. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The woman flagged down a taxi and very softly, spoke to the driver about her destination. The driver was talking loudly because he was anxious about leaving his shift and he wanted to drive to locations which were near to his desired location. The woman got uncomfortable and asked the driver why he was shouting. Then she said the name of a hotel. Then the driver understood that she desired discretion. He really turned down his volume and I could no longer hear his replies. The man was still detached and seemed unknowing of his female companion conversing with the cab driver. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
This episode in real life was like the play of somebody’s husband, who had a mistress on the side and this mistress was taking him to a hotel. <\/p>\n\n\n\n