Dreaming of The Other Woman:

The dream of the other woman led to Andrew leaving his wife Penelope. On a parallel universe, Hanson and Rhonda are playing out their romance. Hanson doesn’t respect Rhonda. He obliges her by doing whatever she requests, because he is her subordinate. Hanson is plotting to get his Other Woman. Hanson is supposed to leave work after 8 pm. Rhonda leaves work at 5:30 pm. She asks Hanson to leave work together. How privileged is Hanson!

Old man Jim has a female friend (a resident in the neighborhood) who has empathy for him. When she walks past the main gate, she would offer to buy lunch for him. The drawing shows the woman talking about getting two plates of fried noodles. Jim says no. Jim refuses to accept because he had been warned not to solicit personal favors from the residents of his workplace. Rhonda, his manager, has warned him not to be too friendly and personal with attached women. Jim is barking up the wrong tree. He tries to tackle Penelope, who is the wrong tree.

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Response: 1.

The drawing shows Hansom and Rhoda, who work in Penelope’s neighborhood. They are hired help who are employed by the management who runs the apartment blocks. Penelope lives in one small unit of one such apartment block. Rhonda carries on with Hansom, which encourages other men working in the estate, to try to tackle lone women in this neighborhood. Lone women who are abandoned after they discover their dreams of their husband’s mistress were true.

Rhonda would send out Hanson to buy two cups of coffee from the food cafeteria next door. Then she would naturally invite Hanson to drink coffee with her.

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Jim said comments that were calculated to manipulate his younger and gullible colleague. “Rhonda should be wearing her headscarf. She does business with men behind doors. She doesn’t obey her religion’s laws.” Jim said this to paint Rhonda in the bad light she represented herself in. Rhonda really let her hair loose and wore low cut tops.

Hansom was one of the men who enjoyed coffee breaks and lunch breaks with Rhonda. Behind the closed door and privacy of her office. Hansom didn’t know he was being baited for blackmail.

Penelope had dreamed her husband Andrew kept a girlfriend mistress. She couldn’t trust her dream and told herself that Andrew wasn’t the type to abandon her. She had fought to keep him but lost because he was obstinate and refused to budge. She couldn’t believe that it all started with a dream of her husband’s mistress. Of course, Andrew and his mistress had been carrying on for some time before his big move. He wanted his freedom so that his mistress could visit him or even stay with him.

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In this story, “Dreaming of Husband’s Mistress“, the woman Penelope has a husband who has left her for his girlfriend mistress Magdalene. Old Man Jim (on the left) gossips to Hansom. He has his opinion that Penelope takes money from men. Jim slanders Penelope, without knowing the true facts. Jim doesn’t know that Penelope’s husband Andrew, comes and goes to live with his favorite people. Penelope is doubly wronged as an immoral woman, and she is abandoned by her husband. Penelope does dream of her husband’s mistress and she can’t do anything about it.

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You know how they say men like women with long hair? Heck, men also like other men with long hair. If you dream of your partner’s sidechick having long hair, it could be a reflex that was programmed into your brain. Or maybe there really is a competitor who has long hair.

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However, if you (either male or female) are already unfaithful before having this dream of the other sex partner, then this dream does not have much impact. It could be a dream of nostalgia for your other partner.

You may dream of a woman and know instinctively she is your husband’s mistress. You might have picked up vibes that your spouse has someone who he treats as more important than you. For example, he might leave you alone in the dark, while he hails the first available cab, to send him to his girlfriend / mistress’ hotel room. If you felt hurt at this slight, it may trigger a dream about your husband’s mistress. If you ave observed your spouse’s behaviors and seen how your trust has been betrayed by acts of infidelity, then your knowledge may trigger dreams of your spouse cheating on you. 

Sometimes, there are other interpretations of this dream about your husband’s mistress. Your emotional insecurity could also be a factor in triggering this kind of dream. If you have observed your spouse, checked on his fidelity, and derived at the conclusion that he has not been keeping a mistress, then you need to work on your emotional security. Feeling suspicious and gut instinct are different i nature. You should have observations and empirical evidence to support your suspicions. 

Has there been cause for you to feel jealous? If there were no real evidence of unfaithful behaviors, you might wish to work on your trust issues.

If the main theme is about you, like you are the one who is straying away from your marriage, then this may trigger a dream about your husband having a mistress. You may have thought of breaking away from your domestic relationship, leaving your position vacant for the next successor. You might wonder who would be your estranged husband’s girlfriend or mistress, or you wouldn’t care less. 

You may dream of your husband’s mistress but in reality, does he really have a mistress? Men spend a large proportion of time at work. In fact, a common saying goes, “A man is married to his work”. This is because he spends a lot of time  on his work. His work can sometimes be mistaken as his mistress as he does not go home punctually, or he spends his weekends away from home because he clocks up hours at work.

Some men have hobbies like fishing, playing pool, golf, or recreational activities. These events take up time. The wife or family who waits at home for his return, may wonder where he has went and may even think he spends time with a mistress. The husband who spends a lot of time on his hobby may be misunderstood as cheating on his wife. The husband who is away from his wife for long periods of time, may trigger dreams of cheating. The wife may suspect her spouse of cheating, because of her husband’s mistress or girlfriend. 

There are different cases, where the wife might not even suspect her husband for cheating. She did not dream in real life, nor in her night, that her husband would cheat on her. Then one day, she gets a stimulus that her husband has cheated. This is a devastating shock. The wife who was too busy attending to her sphere of responsibilities, may not have picked up signals that her husband was cheating.

A wife’s pregnancy is commonly the time when her husband cheats on her. There have been countless stories of how the husband strayed away from his wife, at the time when she appeared less attractive with her ballooning abdomen.

Dreams can be triggered by factors. The meaning of the dream depends on your personal knowledge of what the dream symbol means to you, your experiences with the dream icon, cultural meanings attached to the symbol, current themes and situation in your waking life, emotional feelings and a combination of these factors. 

Story:

One day, I met a man who is not married to the woman he was accompanying. That man was a stranger. He probably was a bachelor, or a husband of a woman who was not standing beside him at the taxi stand. You may ask, how did I know he was not married to that woman? He acted as though he was not accompanying the woman. He stood there behaving detached and isolated. He pretended to be busy with his smartphone by scrolling down the screen, or texting.

The woman flagged down a taxi and very softly, spoke to the driver about her destination. The driver was talking loudly because he was anxious about leaving his shift and he wanted to drive to locations which were near to his desired location. The woman got uncomfortable and asked the driver why he was shouting. Then she said the name of a hotel. Then the driver understood that she desired discretion. He really turned down his volume and I could no longer hear his replies. The man was still detached and seemed unknowing of his female companion conversing with the cab driver.

This episode in real life was like the play of somebody’s husband, who had a mistress on the side and this mistress was taking him to a hotel.

Dreaming of husband’s mistress can be a reality when:

1. Your husband practices polygamy. In certain social cultures like cults and sex cults, polygamy is practiced. Certain religions like Islam tolerate polygamy under some conditions. A Muslim man is allowed to marry up to four wives, if each wife consents to their husband taking on yet another new wife.
2. Some ethnic groups from some Southeast Asian countries, South America and elsewhere, were found to have practiced polygamy.

Story:

A woman told me this story. She had nagging suspicions her husband was cheating on her with another woman. He kept his cell phone under his pillow and took calls at odd hours of the night. On weekends, he also spent a copious amount of time chatting on his phone. The poor wife initially trusted her husband. She was none the wiser because he conversed in his mother tongue, which wasn’t English, and she didn’t understand his language. When she asked him about his calls, he evaded her curiosity by saying he had urgent calls from his friends or relatives back in his former native soil.

One day, the wife opened her husband’s wallet out of curiosity. She saw a condom wedged in one of the plastic pocket sleeves of the wallet. She was shocked. What was he doing outside, that he needed to carry a condom in his wallet? He has become ever ready to rise to the occasion. The woman said she confronted her husband. He told her that he was sometimes approached by gay men and he  felt compelled to keep a condom ready, just in case he was raped.

Now, this wife was not intelligent at all. She was a homely woman, who spent all her time on housework, childcare, and freelance writing online. She wasn’t worldly, but trusting. She believed in her husband.

One night, this wife had a strange dream. She dreamed her husband was at the airport. There was a woman standing nearby. The wife knew by intuition, that the woman was her husband’s girlfriend. She was sending him off. The next morning, she thought nothing of her dream, because she dismissed it as nonsense.

Months passed by. The wife thought the previous puzzle with the condom was resolved. Then one day, her husband dropped a bombshell. He had resigned from his job and applied for another. He signed up for a teaching post in a developing country. He was leaving behind his wife and young child.

The wife was shaking with fear. “How can you leave us? I barely make enough money to get by”.

“Its time for you to ask your dad to loan you money”, he said.

“Please don’t go,” she begged him.

“I’m leaving. My flight is booked”.

The husband left for four years. He visited his wife and young child twice during this time. The wife accidentally found circumstantial evidence he spent time in the company of a woman.

This sad story shows how the woman’s dream of her husband cheating on her with a mistress, was true.

Comic series on WHY MEN CHEAT.

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Above comic was inspired by essay from Ebony Utley (2011).

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Common tell tale signs your husband has a mistress:

1. He goes out after dinner and tells you not to wait up.

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Husband tells wife at the very last minute, that he’s going in to work on Saturday.

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A wife should be suspicious when her husband often goes out to play golf, on Sundays.

Coming soon in this post:

Dreaming of relationship interference from cheaters who desire to scam money out of romantic dalliance.

This is a story I’ve been trying to tell. The old man is past his prime and has old age health problems. He wants to trap a younger woman to use as his sugar Mommy. He wants to usurp a woman who is already trained in domestic foundations, in order to ease himself into the established role of the man in the family.

The woman target of his amorous and ill directed advances, thinks of her family and wants to preserve the sanctity of her family unit.

The woman refuses the old leech’s sexual advances. The old man tried to enlist the help of his younger colleague, to collectively pressurize the woman into submission. The young man is exasperated as he knows the woman can not be forced into a romantic affair with the old man.

Of course, the old man does not obey his boss.

The female boss is in a covert relationship with one of her staff, which happens conveniently, to be the old man’s Younger Colleague.

Younger Colleague sometimes talks about being called by the boss, to perform menial chores, like wiping the vending machine, with a rag. This is essentially not in his line of duty.

If you wish to attract male or female admirers, get a dog. I drew this comic after a real life incident. The man in the comic had a pug dog. This breed has a fierce, frowning face with tick wrinkles. Yet, his dog managed to win the attention of not one, but TWO women. Mind you, these were beautiful women. The first woman wanted to take pictures of the pug dog. The second woman wanted to pet the dog. If I had time to wait there longer, I might have seen more women coming to pay homage to the dog. If your husband or wife has a dog and brings it for walks, be careful. The dog might just be a prop to attract people and then relationships may sprout out of the seemingly innocent encounter.

New incident:

There is an apartment unit whose main occupant rears a small dog. A plump, long haired woman, from a certain background and culture, sometimes comes out to the balcony to stand and speak to her relative. At other times, the small dog goes out into the balcony to sit or lie down. Over the space of a few months, another woman is seen standing at the same balcony, with the same small dog. This is a different woman, with short hair and slim figure, is from a different background and culture. The dog remains the same but the woman has been changed.

There is more to come. More pictures will be uploaded here. Please check back periodically from time to time. New pictures will be pasted here when they are colored and ready.

April 2020

There is a celebrity gossip story about a dating couple. The man is older than his girlfriend. They had been dating for 9 years, with some of these years co-living together as a couple. He has two cell phones, with one exclusively used to communicate with women. He told his live-in love that she should trust him, and not check his phones. One day, she did. She found evidence he was cheating on her, and confronted him. He promised to mend his ways. This girlfriend believed him and gave him a second chance. She soon discovered he wanted a third chance, then a fourth chance, then fifth, then sixth … After nine years, she finally parted ways with him. Much later, she revealed he had invited women over to their shared home, whenever she wasn’t home. Also, whenever he traveled out alone without her, he would invite women to his room. After their breakup, she exposed his behaviors, because she wanted to warn all his girlfriends about him.

In power relationships, like when a woman is indebted to her boss, he can take advantage of her and she, him, by developing a sexual relationship. This girlfriend accused her ex-boyfriend of taking advantage of his makeup artiste and colleague/ protege, to ask for intimacy. The cheated woman was afraid she would have caught a sexually transmitted disease and she went for testing.

This man’s alleged side chick made some outrageous remarks about her boss being her boyfriend, flirted with him in their public works and showed off her expensive birthday presents gifted to her by her boyfriend-boss. When people knew about the complicated love triangle, they mostly sided with the wronged woman.

Healing after ill treatment from cheating –

Ill treatment is a form of abuse. If the husband does not respect his wife/ partner, and keeps a side chick along the way, he has misused his power. He misused it to cheat with another woman. Everyone has their own power, including the cheated spouse/ girlfriend. The cheated partner can use their power to heal over this damaged relationship.

When you were cheated on, you did not have any control over this. Your partner/ spouse went ahead to commit the affair. Now that you are aware of it, you have the power to choose what you are going to do about it. You are going to heal over your hurt.

You can use your anger in a productive way. Learn to practice a hobby or new hobby. If you can make small or big products for sale, or collect for its beauty, you are channeling your time and energy positively.

If you had been dreaming of husband’s mistress and think you’re cheated, how can you help yourself?

1. Stop thinking about the past. Let it go. I think, and therefore I am. So when you think of hurts, you become that hurt person who’s bleeding pain. Instead, think positive thoughts. I think positive, therefore, I am positive. I am going forward after this episode.
2. If you feel abandoned and afraid, don’t. Turn to your close relatives and friends. Think of mending first before you think of separating and divorce. Can you accept and forgive him? Do you want to give him another chance? Do you want to try mending your broken relationship? How has he responded to repair the relationship?
3. If you both decide to end the relationship in marriage, think of how to progress forward. Can you handle your new set of finances? If you were not working before, are you going to start working after your split? Going through your practical issues will reduce your stress and anxieties.
4. Acknowledge your emotional stress and needs. It hurts to know betrayal and feel unjustly cheated. Cry if you feel like it because emotional de-stressing helps you to slowly heal.
5. You will reminiscence about the past. As you think over each challenging episode, you may gain new insights about why things happened in those ways.
6. If you need to talk to someone, seek out your confidante. Sign up for professional counselling if you think you need professional therapy.

Meaning of this dream of being with my mistress and my husband relaxing

There was an anonymous search for this dream interpretation. If the dreamer is a male, and he dreams of being with his mistress, while his gay husband is relaxing, it means the dreamer may be bisexual (attracted to both male and female). Since the dream imagery shows his husband relaxing, it can mean the husband is all right and accepting of sharing his husband with a woman.

If the dreamer is female, and dreams of being with her mistress, while her husband is relaxing, it means the dreamer is bisexual. While her husband accepts this fact and also that she has a mistress, it means her husband accepts this triangular relationship.

Dream of seeing husband’s lover, but then you and her became friends. What does this mean?

This might mean your intuition tells you to let go of the relationship. You no longer have a close relationship with your husband. That is why you saw dream imagery of yourself not being angry with his infidelity. On the contrary, you are making friends with your rival. This is just a dream interpretation. You can try to discover if there is such a woman in your husband’s life. If the answer is yes, you have to consider if you desire to save your marriage. You might confront your husband to talk about his other woman. Is he interested to save the marriage? You might want to hire a marriage counselor. You may have to persuade him to attend couples’ counseling. Both parties may have grievances. You need to discuss these issues with him. You need to come to terms or reach a middle ground. How you proceed after your dream and finding the truth, depends on you.

Dream I’m talking with my husband’s mistress on the phone:

Your intuition may have triggered this dream to inform you that you know about your husband’s mistress. You may be knowing her identity as a friend, acquaintance or relative. You might have seen signs that this person has behaved in unusual ways around your husband or family. Your intuition may have been triggered. Consciously, you want to deny your suspicions because this person is known to you. You are not ready to face facts. Your brain may have invented dream imagery of you speaking on the phone with someone who allegedly is the mistress.

You should not take a dream interpretation as the truth. You need to reflect on your circumstances, and whether the interpretation relates to your present situation. You need to conduct your own checks to verify your suspicions. You need to investigate and check on behaviors, activities, his expenses and other tracking patterns.

The dream may suggest there is unhappiness in the marriage. There may not be a real mistress, but the dream imagery suggests of a drift and distancing because the couple has grown apart.

What is the state of your marriage? If you’re interested to renew, revive or just discuss about your marriage, sit down to have a frank talk. If you need a third party to mediate, hire a counselor or marriage therapist. Talk to your husband. If he agrees to attend couples therapy with you, that is one way to move forward.

Jan. 2021 – another story of a married man, (let’s code name him C1) who is the husband of a woman (code name C2). This man has a close relationship with another woman, (code name C3) who is his neighbor. This C3 woman is married with a child. C2 is not yet jealous of C3, because she does not think that her husband C1, is having an affair with C3. C2 does not think C3 is her husband’s romantic interest, even though C3 behaves as a close confidante of C1. Meanwhile, C3 treats C1 as her real friend. She genuinely wants the best for C1. She helps C1. She puts his interest before hers. She even thinks she should commit crimes for him, because C1 is her friend.

Checklist to find clues about husband having a mistress, or checklist for clues to see if boyfriend has another girlfriend.

Meaning of seeing my husband with a concubine in a dream:

Before jumping into conclusions like your husband having another woman, do your checks. Read the checklist above.

The woman in the dream can be your alter ego, another personality within you. Do some checks before reaching a conclusion.

Dream of suing your husband’s mistress:

Can you actually sue your husband’s mistress? If in real life, you have heard of suing your husband’s mistress, then this could be a trigger for dreaming up that theme. Whether you can sue your husband’s mistress depends on where you’re living. You need to consult with your nearest lawyer.

Dreaming of talking to your husband’s mistress:

It is not a good idea to confront your husband’s mistress in physical meeting or written communication. It gives fodder for repercussions. You should not say or do anything that may jeopardize your standing. It is part of the human psychology to think and feel distress at the injustice suffered. However, you don’t want to provide evidence for the mistress or your husband, to sue you. The laws of every state and country differ. You should consult with your trusted lawyer, on your next course of action.

Dreaming you talked with your husband’s mistress’ husband:

This dream can happen if you entertained thoughts of speaking to your husband’s mistress, to address the issue. When you are the wronged woman, you will have a lot to say. However, it is not a good idea to talk to the husband of the woman with whom your husband is having an affair. You should consult your lawyer on what to do for your next course of action.

When you dream your husband asking to have a side chick what does it mean?

When you dream your husband asking to have a side chick, it may mean you are aware of unhappiness between the two of you. This dream was triggered by input stimulus which alerted you.

Another interpretation can be that your husband is developing a hobby (side chick) and he is going to ask you for your permission to spend time on his new hobby.

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Why dreaming of your husband is a message:

If you dream of your husband, its likely because of a stimulus received recently during your day. Dream imagery of your husband does not mean that character is your husband. Its because all dream characters are invented from a part of you. You see dream imagery of your husband because that dream was created using an aspect of you.

Dreaming of somebody cheating on you is symbolic. The issue is not who has cheated on you, as dream characters are not who you see them to be. These characters are invented from bits of you. The real message is a warning, that you are vulnerable to being cheated. You should make changes to take better care of yourself.

Dream husband’s mistress is pregnant:

Dreams are not literally true. Their imagery is symbolic and the underlying message is not a translation of what you see. This is being said, the dream is about your husband’s project which is brewing and may not be literally his mistress who is pregnant.

Dreaming of your husband’s mistress being pregnant has other dream interpretations.

This dream can be a simulation of something that is happening. It can refer to other projects that are developing.

If you’re a female and biologically fertile, this dream can be a warning about an unexpected pregnancy.

Some women feel the pressure of their ticking biological clock. They may have difficulty conceiving. In their anxiety, they dream of their husband keeping a girlfriend/ side-chick/ mistress, who becomes pregnant.

Dreaming of your husband keeping a mistress may mean that you married the wrong man. You may blame yourself for failing to keep him faithful to you. Or you may blame him for being the unsuitable match.

Dreaming of your husband’s mistress can mean you’re not getting enough attention from your spouse. You suspect him of keeping a mistress because he does not pay attention to you.

Dreaming of your husband cheating on you can mean you lack confidence in him.

Why woman thinks her man has a mistress

Dream of beating husband’s ex mistress:

To beat your husband’s mistress means to compete against the mistress and win your husband back. Ms Scholastica Bassey wrote a self-help book on winning the battle against your husband’s mistress.

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References

Smith, D. J. (2010). Promiscuous Girls, Good wives, and cheating husbands: Gender inequality, transitions to marriage, and infidelity in Southeastern Nigeria. Anthropol Q. 2010 Winter, 83(1): 10.1353/anq.0.0118. DOI: 10.1353/anq.0.0118.

Utley, E. A. (2011). When Better Becomes worse: Black wives describe their experiences with infidelity. Black Women, Gender and families. Spring 2011, Vol. 5, No. 1, p. 66 – 89. Board of Trustees of the University of Illinois: USA.

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